"Center-stage prose with a side of romance" is my GENRE; thank you for this highly compelling endorsement (and, of course, the chance to chat about identity and friendship!)
I’m at a point in life where almost all of my friends have multiple children and there’s a grief in that for me, mourning the way our friendships once were. I told my best friend that I wept when she went into labor because I knew how much the relationship would change and she told me she was crying too knowing her life would never be the same - I found some consolation in that heheh. I’ve found for my own sanity it’s necessary to bring in new friends who are childless so I can still do the things I love that my friends with children are not able or willing to do, so I don’t end up living my life only going to playgrounds and drinks at home after the kids go to bed. However now that some of my friends have older children that are in school, they’re emerging back into the world again and we can kind of pick up where we left off and resume going on weekend trips, dinners out, etc!
100% hard relate to this - especially as a child free by choice woman! My brother recently got his girlfriend pregnant and the way people reacted you would have thought he’d solved world peace… a colleague of mine also recently got engaged and my boss said “well done girl!” To her??? Like I’m sorry, what? Why is that an achievement?
My brother (bless him) knocked someone up with zero effort and my colleague answered yes to a question
I however got a huge promotion at work and it was barely mentioned?! I know I sound bitter, I’m thrilled to be an auntie, but I just find it so frustrating it’s not recognised in the same way??
I loved this. Thank you so much for asking these questions and opening up the dialogue, Kelly! 💛
"Center-stage prose with a side of romance" is my GENRE; thank you for this highly compelling endorsement (and, of course, the chance to chat about identity and friendship!)
I’m at a point in life where almost all of my friends have multiple children and there’s a grief in that for me, mourning the way our friendships once were. I told my best friend that I wept when she went into labor because I knew how much the relationship would change and she told me she was crying too knowing her life would never be the same - I found some consolation in that heheh. I’ve found for my own sanity it’s necessary to bring in new friends who are childless so I can still do the things I love that my friends with children are not able or willing to do, so I don’t end up living my life only going to playgrounds and drinks at home after the kids go to bed. However now that some of my friends have older children that are in school, they’re emerging back into the world again and we can kind of pick up where we left off and resume going on weekend trips, dinners out, etc!
100% hard relate to this - especially as a child free by choice woman! My brother recently got his girlfriend pregnant and the way people reacted you would have thought he’d solved world peace… a colleague of mine also recently got engaged and my boss said “well done girl!” To her??? Like I’m sorry, what? Why is that an achievement?
My brother (bless him) knocked someone up with zero effort and my colleague answered yes to a question
I however got a huge promotion at work and it was barely mentioned?! I know I sound bitter, I’m thrilled to be an auntie, but I just find it so frustrating it’s not recognised in the same way??
Also I’m so sorry they misunderstood you in that column - how frustrating!