This dessert-related mental health status is pure gold! Today I am a granola cookie from an airport. I won't be all that tasty, I'll likely cost more than I have any right costing, I'm probably still basically oats on top of sugar, but overall I'll get you over the line until better things are possible. Tldr: I'm hanging in there and doing my best.
Best book of the year: I just read The Wedding People by Alison Espach and I really did love it -- enough that I read it nonstop in-transit in Bulgaria and Türkiye last week!
Other noteworthy contenders right now: The Last Painting of Sarah de Vos by Dominic Smith and The Ensemble by Aja Gabel.
Currently reading Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy and all I'll say is, please Kelly, can you read it and then we do a O-O book club on it?!
Also read Miley Cyrus’ interview and Miley’s “I’m not passionate about it” really resonated with me. Like it’s so level headed and I love that she’s not 100% decided. I think kids are great, but I also don’t want to spend the next 18+ years focused on that.
This entire post was pure joy, thank you! I'm so thankful to have my own Dolly-like relationship in my life. And that group chat question is iconic. I'm identifying as a frozen yogurt treat you fear is going to taste healthy but is actually a delight.
I'm a fizzing sugar melting mint and chocolate chip ice cream.
I know how oddly specific this sounds. I'm all bubbly inside (hence the fizzling sugar) because I reached my goals for the week. And I'm melting because it's too damn hot in Provence these days.
My husband had a vasectomy after I told him that I was going to have my tubes tied. He was like : come on, I'll do it. It's way easier for us men! He's a gem 🩵
I really loved this post—it felt so refreshingly good to focus on the joys in life unrelated to childbearing (and their value! My life has value without children!), vs kinda the negatives around what women with children face, and The State of the World (always some unfavorable balance of amazing:unbearable, such is history/life).
At some drunken Hanukkah party a few years back, my husband and I were talking with a dad acquaintance who told us that it was good and right that we didn’t have kids if we were ambivalent about it—you really had to be all in to justify what went into it. Then and now, that statement that the passion needed to be there, has really resonated with me.
My husband has offered to get a vasectomy, but I’m too happy with the lack of periods and decent skin I have with my Mirena!
A book I read recently and am still thinking about is Death of the Author by Nnedi Okorafor. I don't know if it's the best thing I read, but it had all these sci-fi, disability and body questions that were so interesting that I think I'll still be recommending it to people a year from now. The commentary on having a story become a movie and ultimately its own thing that you never intended was also chewy.
My dessert mental health status is the log of cookie dough that Cher Horowitz dumps unsliced onto the sheet pan in Clueless ahead of her date with Christian, forgets about, and then burns to a crisp. I have many good ideas and intentions, but I've been too lazy to execute and then burnt out by all the other stuff I have going on.
My husband and I were both wondering yesterday how Dolly Parton became Miley’s godmother - how timely! Most of the books I’ve read this year are from 2024 but one that was released this year that I loved was Ione Skye’s memoir SAY EVERYTHING.
vasectomies for the win!!! my husband offered to get one a few years ago to take the burden of birth control off of me. i’d had the paragard IUD, which took a week of my life away each month for five years. it’s funny because i have a lot of friends who don’t want kids but their husbands are still hesitant to get vasectomies. wild!!!
today i think im blueberry cobbler, but the proportions are a little wonky (too sweet? not sweet enough? not enough cakey bits?) . celebrating the longest day of the year with a hike and a half day of work with my dog and husband, but ive been soooo busy that i had to skip out on a class i take last night to get some work done and i still need to go back and edit some of my work. ugh.
This dessert-related mental health status is pure gold! Today I am a granola cookie from an airport. I won't be all that tasty, I'll likely cost more than I have any right costing, I'm probably still basically oats on top of sugar, but overall I'll get you over the line until better things are possible. Tldr: I'm hanging in there and doing my best.
Best book of the year: I just read The Wedding People by Alison Espach and I really did love it -- enough that I read it nonstop in-transit in Bulgaria and Türkiye last week!
Other noteworthy contenders right now: The Last Painting of Sarah de Vos by Dominic Smith and The Ensemble by Aja Gabel.
Currently reading Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy and all I'll say is, please Kelly, can you read it and then we do a O-O book club on it?!
Loved Wild Dark Shore and promptly read her other two books! Also loved Wedding People but was pretty meh on Blue Sisters…
Also loved wedding people!
Omg challenge accepted! I keep hearing about Wild Dark Shore EVERYWHERE, I guess it's time for me to pick it up next time I'm a the bookstore!!
Also read Miley Cyrus’ interview and Miley’s “I’m not passionate about it” really resonated with me. Like it’s so level headed and I love that she’s not 100% decided. I think kids are great, but I also don’t want to spend the next 18+ years focused on that.
This entire post was pure joy, thank you! I'm so thankful to have my own Dolly-like relationship in my life. And that group chat question is iconic. I'm identifying as a frozen yogurt treat you fear is going to taste healthy but is actually a delight.
Best compliment, thank you!
I'm a fizzing sugar melting mint and chocolate chip ice cream.
I know how oddly specific this sounds. I'm all bubbly inside (hence the fizzling sugar) because I reached my goals for the week. And I'm melting because it's too damn hot in Provence these days.
My husband had a vasectomy after I told him that I was going to have my tubes tied. He was like : come on, I'll do it. It's way easier for us men! He's a gem 🩵
Keep him!!!! <3
I have every intention to 😊
I really loved this post—it felt so refreshingly good to focus on the joys in life unrelated to childbearing (and their value! My life has value without children!), vs kinda the negatives around what women with children face, and The State of the World (always some unfavorable balance of amazing:unbearable, such is history/life).
At some drunken Hanukkah party a few years back, my husband and I were talking with a dad acquaintance who told us that it was good and right that we didn’t have kids if we were ambivalent about it—you really had to be all in to justify what went into it. Then and now, that statement that the passion needed to be there, has really resonated with me.
My husband has offered to get a vasectomy, but I’m too happy with the lack of periods and decent skin I have with my Mirena!
Love that! Hate periods, 1000%
A book I read recently and am still thinking about is Death of the Author by Nnedi Okorafor. I don't know if it's the best thing I read, but it had all these sci-fi, disability and body questions that were so interesting that I think I'll still be recommending it to people a year from now. The commentary on having a story become a movie and ultimately its own thing that you never intended was also chewy.
My dessert mental health status is the log of cookie dough that Cher Horowitz dumps unsliced onto the sheet pan in Clueless ahead of her date with Christian, forgets about, and then burns to a crisp. I have many good ideas and intentions, but I've been too lazy to execute and then burnt out by all the other stuff I have going on.
That is so incredibly specific and A++++ wow
My husband and I were both wondering yesterday how Dolly Parton became Miley’s godmother - how timely! Most of the books I’ve read this year are from 2024 but one that was released this year that I loved was Ione Skye’s memoir SAY EVERYTHING.
I'm deep in some tech stuff trying to launch a new offer so i think my bag is a package of oreos that's getting binged!
And yes, amen to the vacectomy! My husband was always for it and think men that are too afriad to do it or think it's not their job are weak :)
vasectomies for the win!!! my husband offered to get one a few years ago to take the burden of birth control off of me. i’d had the paragard IUD, which took a week of my life away each month for five years. it’s funny because i have a lot of friends who don’t want kids but their husbands are still hesitant to get vasectomies. wild!!!
today i think im blueberry cobbler, but the proportions are a little wonky (too sweet? not sweet enough? not enough cakey bits?) . celebrating the longest day of the year with a hike and a half day of work with my dog and husband, but ive been soooo busy that i had to skip out on a class i take last night to get some work done and i still need to go back and edit some of my work. ugh.