May '25 ins/outs

I wash my hair with a bar of soap now? (Plus some harsh thoughts on "millennial gray")

We are all Pedro Pascal, he is all of us

June is on Sunday?! Wow. I can’t believe we’re nearly halfway through the year already. Feels like fake news. Much of the actual news lately genuinely feels like fake news / depressing dystopian shit, but that’s 2025 for you. Although, this poem by Mary Oliver is nearly 40 years old and it still hits:

I spent most of May splashing around in dystopian / sad girl media (still coming to terms with losing my job in March and for a more practical reason I’ll get into below) and I felt the optimistic and pessimistic parts of me constantly fighting each other like annoying siblings while listening to “I Hate It Here” on repeat :)

Never felt more called out 🥲

Do these lyrics make you cry? Or is it just me??

I'm lonely but I'm good
I'm bitter but I swear I'm fine
I'll save all my romanticism for my inner life
and I'll get lost on purpose
This place made me feel worthless
Lucid dreams like electricity, the current flies through me,
and in my fantasies I rise above it
And way up there, I actually love it

Anyway… there was so much good stuff happening in May, too. Constantly reminding myself of the inherent darkness/lightness in life. So many of my favorite people were born this month so it will always be special, though! x

OOS on the ba&sh site and pretty much everywhere else but may be on sale at Bluefly! Wrinkles sold separately

1. Prints and patterns – I wore this ba&sh dress to Paul’s birthday party and got so many compliments I don’t want to ever wear anything plain again!! Kidding, but I’ve been really interested in loud ass prints and patterns lately. I haven’t bought anything new in months but the only things really catching my eye right now are “statement” pieces rather than neutral basics. Strongly considering ending my self-imposed clothes buying ban for this top from Farm Rio:

More is more honestly

2. how i’m feeling now and the new “party 4 u” music video – Charli xcx’s pandemic album turned five this month and we got a brand new music video for “party 4 u” to celebrate. According to Charli, it was shot and released in just 4 days and is about self-hatred and emotions (the ending?!?!)

I didn’t fully appreciate the album in 2020, but I’ve been listening to it nonstop this year (other than “party 4 u,” my favorite songs are “visions” and “detonate” but I don’t think this album has any misses if you put yourself in a ratchet club mindset??)

I swear the green cabinets are even better in person

3. Checkerboard floors – One of the side effects of being married to a realtor is that I often get recruited to help redesign rooms in houses going up for sale. It’s usually really dated bathrooms and kitchens and 100% of the time we’re on a very strict budget, which is part of the challenge. This month I recommended the same checkerboard tiles in two different properties with busted floors (if it ain’t broke?) and honestly it hits so hard. I want it in my house. The top one sold to our dentist. Couldn’t make that up if I tried.

Would have picked a more saturated blue for the walls if we’d done any sampling but this bathroom kills now tbh

4. davines Volumizing Shampoo Bar ($27) – We hung out with my sister’s boyfriend twice this month, and both times he was like girl why does your hair look really good right now? I was like huh??? I haven’t gotten my hair cut in 6 months and I’m currently sporting “recession blonde,” but I did switch to a new shampoo in March and I think I actually love it? You might have a heart attack when I tell you it’s a shampoo bar, which probably conjures images of washing your hair with a block of Irish Spring, but trust me, this shampoo bar is ~fancy~. I’m always looking for ways to cut unnecessary plastic out of my life, and I think I’m a convert. Here’s what my hair looks like right now, u be the judge: